Amish dating customs

11 Sep

During my times of staying with the Old Order Amish, I’ve witnessed the parents’ plan and carry out social events, regularly providing a place for the teens to play indoor and outdoor games while being chaperoned and well-fed.

The parents give leeway for the young people to express interest in the opposite sex, while providing opportunities to bond with other Amish teens.

Amish rarely date before the age of 16 and they are never seen in daylight alone.

The young adults have the personal freedom to choose their mates.

Amish parents feel strongly about their teens forming healthy friendships, knowing that those relationships will often become their teens’ support system throughout life.

For generations Amish parents have had traditions in place to help the next generation find their mate.As important as this decision is, the parents aim to keep their opinions out of the mix and trust God to direct their adult children’s steps…as long as the prospective mate is from an Amish household.The young people begin this journey during their rumschpringe, which usually begins at 16.Amish migrated to North America in 1736 settling in 20 U. states that included New York, Montana, Oregon, Kansas, Oklahoma, Iowa, North Dakota, Wisconsin, Arkansas, Tennessee, Illinois, Michigan, Kentucky, Indiana, Ohio, Florida, Virginia, Pennsylvania, Maryland, and Delaware with Ohio and Pennsylvania having the highest concentrations (Hostetler, 1993) Marriage and family is a very important institution for the Amish religion.Young adults have very few opportunities to interact with the opposite sex and are gender segregated at church and during play.