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05 Nov

I live with my long-term boyfriend and am happily settled in a heterosexual relationship. In a world full of labels designed to put people into boxes, I identify, officially, as "mostly heterosexual." But this isn't a label people easily understand. A lot of my sexploits, both male and female, have been selfishly inclined. Since I experience with both sexes, I can often mislead and hurt people of both sexes. But while women have been on my sexual menu, the sex I've had with them has been mostly experimental: a college girl in her early 20s rampantly exploring her sexuality in a sea of available partners.

We've been dating for more than two years; and while every relationship comes with its share of pitfalls, our partnership is stable, healthy, and I'm sure one day we'll get married. I've had a lot of boyfriends and a lot of sex with men. Yes, I had a really great time going to bars and clubs and sleeping with women. Any time we drank together, I told her how much I liked her.

I mean, she hasn't declared her love for me yet but I feel like that will happen any day now because I want us to be Alice and Dana so badly.

Maybe because she doesn't feel comfortable declaring her love for me when she isn't wasted?

This proves problematic for both me and the people I have around me. So while my boyfriend's a cisgender male and I definitely prefer D to V, my last relationship was with a woman. I have enjoyed the company of the ladies in my time. We're soft, we smell lovely, and there is none of the fuckboy shenanigans we're used to dealing with when it comes to guys.

I know it’s complicated because these straight girls (sometimes) indulge the crush. They’re batting their mega lashes at you and flirting with youjust the right amount, so you feel compelled to keep on going.

Chad is just a placeholder for who she really loves, which is me.

Look, I know there are no concrete ways to tell if someone's gay but she has a pixie cut, and short nails and I am in love with her.

But before you run up to her and gush about how you think you like her and maybe you should makeout or go to dinner and blah blah blah, you need to figure some shit out first.

Otherwise, you risk embarrassing yourself, ruining your friendship, hurting her feelings and plenty of other awkward things.